Emotional Healing: How to let go of past hurt (Loss, Breakup, Betrayal)
Healing from past emotional trauma can be a difficult journey.
Whether it's from a breakup, a loss, a betrayal—whatever form or label it comes in doesn't make emotional healing any easier to bear.
Sometimes you'll feel like what the Bible describes as "more than a conqueror" and other times, you'll feel shamefully conquered...
Sometimes you're convinced you've healed, other times, you're not so sure because you still see signs that show you're not fully healed...
The truth is, most times you struggle with the healing process because you expect it to happen like an event—with a specific date and time. And when it doesn’t, you get frustrated and disappointed.
I know that feeling too well because I've been there severally. The point where you start asking yourself questions like:
"How come you're not over this yet?"
My healing journey has been a gradual, messy process, but I can boldly say I have been able to make so much progress.
How I've Been Able to Heal on My Journey:
As a psychology nerd, I am overly invested in the intricate workings of the mind and how it affects mental health and the overall well-being of a person.
I'll be lying if I told you this hasn't played a significant role in aiding my entire emotional recovery, but beyond psychology, this is what I discovered:
Therapy works & self-awareness works too, but there's an even better way—a faster way!
Something I like to call—The Askim's Way
"Askim" is a Turkish word for "my love" and it's one of the many names I call the Holy Spirit...
I can boldly say that He is the invaluable catalyst that sped up my entire soul healing journey, and just the other day while we were muddled up in an intense moment—just the two of us...
He explained why the healing of the soul is important and how it can be attained with His help...
Now that information I received wasn't just for me.
In the next part of this article, I'll copy and paste as I was given.
If you're also struggling to heal from trauma that doesn’t go away, then read, take notes, and implement in your life.
You'll see results too :)
The Askim's Way:
He said:
"When I made you, I put a light inside you, but as you go through life, that light gradually becomes buried.
For every time you were hurt, broken, falsely accused, neglected, rejected, bullied, and beaten...
Every time you were misunderstood, harshly judged, criticized, not listened to, or forgotten...
Every time you weren't chosen, weren't believed, or were left defenseless...I could keep going on...
But the point is that every time you were bruised physically, mentally, or emotionally, that light I put inside was covered by resultant emotions:
E.g. Anger, bitterness, anxiety, self-doubt, fear, and trauma.
How the Healing Happens:
When you sit with Me and allow Me to guide you in worship—whether through praise, prayer, or even silence—an excavation happens...
The curette of My presence gradually scoops out the debris, the emotional pain, the bitterness, the waste—thereby allowing the light beneath to shine forth.
I want you to imagine a window on a sunny day with holes...the rays of light that peek through are similar to what I am referring to in this moment.
Why This Healing is Necessary:
Now, you must understand that this said light is what was referred to in Isaiah...
1 Arise, shine, for your light has come,
and the glory of the Lord rises upon you.
2 See, darkness covers the earth
and thick darkness is over the peoples,
but the Lord rises upon you
and His glory appears over you.
3 Nations will come to your light,
and kings to the brightness of your dawn.
This light is not something that comes upon you; it is that which emerges from within you.
This is what the nations will come to. It is what will attract kings.
Now, before I formed you, I knew you and I called you. I set you apart and lit a light on your inside.
I won’t light another one. You must intentionally work on letting this one shine.
This is why you must fellowship with Me.
This is why spiritual intimacy beyond religious obligations is a necessity.
How to Get Started with Your Own Healing:
You must teach yourself to come and STAY in the secret place because it is they that WAIT on the Lord that will find new strength—not they that merely come.
31 But those who wait on the Lord
Shall renew their strength;
They shall mount up with wings like eagles,
They shall run and not be weary,
They shall walk and not faint.
It is not enough to appear before Me—you must wait...you must quavah...you must stay!
The secret place is not supposed to be visited; it should become your dwelling place. It is supposed to be home. You should be reluctant to leave when you come.
Teach yourself to enjoy My presence.
It requires intentional effort and above all, you will need patience. Learn how to be patient. This is the only way.
If you do this diligently and consistently, your life would be like what the scripture describes: the path of the just shines brighter and brighter unto a perfect day. (See Proverbs 4:18)
Practical Steps You Can Start Taking:
So, the next time you come to the secret place, don’t lead Me in prayer, don’t scatter everywhere with tongues...calm down and if possible shut up too...
just for a while, until I tell you what type of worship would be most pleasing to the Father and edifying for your spirit.
The Bible says, “for we know not how we ought to pray except the Spirit helpeth our infirmities.”
This scripture is not a prank. It is very valid.
So if you know that you do not know how you should pray, why do you always lead Me in prayer instead of waiting for My guidance and instructions?
Be still in My presence and let My peace in your heart guide you in the right direction.
This is the strategy for getting your light to shine again.
Yield to intimacy.
Seek spiritual intimacy.
Over activity, choose intimacy.
You never lose with it!"
Wrapping Up:
Healing from past hurt can be a very unpleasant experience—take it from someone who knows.
But as much as you do the inner work—debunking, therapy, inner child healing, journaling (all of which I am a huge advocate for)...
There’s the place of God in your emotional healing journey, and the sooner you let Him get to work, the better for you.
You don’t just carry light—you are light!
But because of life circumstances, that light has been buried beneath layers of emotional pain, anger, and trauma.
The point is, you’ll never reach your full potential or true identity until you allow the Lord to do His work in you.
Give Him a chance. You won’t regret it.
I can vouch my life on this fact.
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