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Each post is a reflection of some of my most vulnerable moments with God; my endless questions, his wise responses and some of the lessons learnt.

The goal is that as you read them, you can also find answers to some of the questions troubling you.

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This is where psychology meets spirituality. 

The articles here provide awareness and truth, that will  help you understand your emotions and heal from trauma.


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Once in a while I like to indulge my quirky observations. I do some digging and then put my findings to writing.

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I think about the weirdest things and then I create articles about them because why not?

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To the One Who Grew Up Too Fast…

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  For you, childhood was a luxury you couldn't enjoy. There were so many expectations, multiple responsibilities, and that robbed you of the opportunity to simply be the child you were. There was no room for mistakes. There was no time to fail. They always expected you to know and do better. There was no time to do the “childish stuff” On your way to the market, you would pass by and watch your mates play with sand.  On your way to daddy's store, you'd see your friends running around the street. Mummy had to be at work early, so you were entrusted with the sacred duty of making sure the house was in order and your siblings were in good health. If ever anything went wrong, they blamed it on you. If the TV got spoilt, it was your fault  If your sibling got injured, then you were careless. If the parlour was scattered, then you're lazy. Everyone called it training and yes, it did make you more responsible, mature & independent than most of your peers But do they know t...
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Help! I'm always so angry....

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… Dealing with hurt & anger that doesn't go away One of the many compliments I get from my readers is how relatable my articles are and I can say for a fact that it is because I almost always write from a place of experience, not just knowledge. This particular article is not left out. Something happened recently and it opened my eyes to how much anger I've been carrying in my heart for a very long time. Consciously I had convinced myself that I was over the hurt but subconsciously I still harbored resentment towards a lot of people who hurt me, both the living and the dead…lol Anywho, as a psychologist I am inherently compelled to not just experience emotions, but also explore them.  I believe it would be an absolute waste of pain and tears if nothing comes out of the whole situation; no lesson, no art, no nothing… ___________________________________ So, while I discovered that I was still being held back by anger and resentment on a subconscious level, about something tha...
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Help! I'm so impatient…

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I can't wait to save my own life… I can remember having this particular conversation with my friend where I said, I think it's unfair that all our lives we're told to do a particular thing but are never taught how to actually do it. This happens in different areas of our lives. We're instructed to be kind, mature, composed etc but hardly would you find a clear, practical guide that teaches you how to execute these instructions. All my life I have always heard "Sofie, you need to be more patient" but on my life, I can tell you for a fact that not a single one of those people have ever explained to me how to go about it...  You see, in my opinion, the subject of patience doesn't get enough attention.  For something so necessary, more articles, videos, books and even sermons should be released on its account. As I progress in life and age, I'm becoming more conscious of the dire necessity for patience in life. Of a truth, it is a virtue and I have realize...
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Help! I'm struggling with an addiction…

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What you'll read in this article is the most practical approach for dealing with any form of addiction... If you've read enough of my articles, one analogy you should be familiar with by now is that of the smoke & fire. I consistently indulge this example, not necessarily because it's my favorite, but because of its practicality in explaining how most times the thing we see is just the effect of an underlying cause. The subject of addiction is one that fits perfectly into this stereotype of experiences. I can tell you for a fact that there are two possible reasons why you're still under the yoke of addiction • A knowledge problem • An action problem Within the cause of this article, I'll be explaining what these two phenomenons connote, and how you can apply them in your peculiar situation and get lasting results. _______________________ Addictions are of different types and depths, and I personally have learnt not to downplay the struggles associated with any. ...
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Emotional Healing: How to let go of past hurt (Loss, Breakup, Betrayal)

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Healing from past emotional trauma can be a difficult journey. Whether it's from a breakup, a loss, a betrayal—whatever form or label it comes in doesn't make emotional healing any easier to bear. Sometimes you'll feel like what the Bible describes as "more than a conqueror" and other times, you'll feel shamefully conquered... Sometimes you're convinced you've healed, other times, you're not so sure because you still see signs that show you're not fully healed... The truth is, most times you struggle with the healing process because you expect it to happen like an event—with a specific date and time. And when it doesn’t, you get frustrated and disappointed. I know that feeling too well because I've been there severally. The point where you start asking yourself questions like: "How come you're not over this yet?" My healing journey has been a gradual, messy process, but I can boldly say I have been able to make so much progr...
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Help! I talk too much and it's ruining my life…

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  Talking too much doesn’t always feel like a problem — until it starts costing you things you didn’t even know were possible to lose. If you're reading this then I assume you can relate to the familiar feeling of exposure, regret and sometimes even shame after ending a conversation where you over shared information you should have kept to yourself. There's that mental circus where your mind starts asking questions you don't have answers to; Why did you say that? Did you have to talk that much? Why are you like this? Most times we justify this character flaws with phrases like “I'm an extrovert”, “I'm really expressive”, “That's just how I am” Well as my pastor would always say; “How you are is not good…change!” Today I intend to be your light that shines through darkness lol I intend to expose the truth of why oversharing affects you, what it's costing you and how you can evolve out of it. Change is possible! How do I know? Because baby, I used to be a tal...
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Help!...I Overthink a Lot and It Makes Me Anxious!

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I made a post on my socials and a friend of mine responded to it and from the message she sent me, there was a clearly misunderstanding with her interpretation of the point I was trying to make on that post... Anyways, I responded to her and afterwards, the drama began...My mind began it's usual circus... "Maybe you shouldn't have said that..." "That was rude..." "Naah...you were polite in your tone" "Delete the message!" "No! people should be held accountable..." "What if she's angry?..." "I no send her papa.."  The more I thought about the situation, I started to feel tension well up in my chest, the anxiety was gradually kicking in... Now, although you and I are two separate beings, if you're reading this article then I bet you can relate to this familiar circle. Somehow, overthinking has made it's way to the top five of this generation's biggest issue and has single handedly led to the des...
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