To the One Who Grew Up Too Fast…
For you, childhood was a luxury you couldn't enjoy.
There were so many expectations, multiple responsibilities, and that robbed you of the opportunity to simply be the child you were.
There was no room for mistakes. There was no time to fail. They always expected you to know and do better. There was no time to do the “childish stuff”
On your way to the market, you would pass by and watch your mates play with sand.
On your way to daddy's store, you'd see your friends running around the street.
Mummy had to be at work early, so you were entrusted with the sacred duty of making sure the house was in order and your siblings were in good health.
If ever anything went wrong, they blamed it on you.
If the TV got spoilt, it was your fault
If your sibling got injured, then you were careless.
If the parlour was scattered, then you're lazy.
Everyone called it training and yes, it did make you more responsible, mature & independent than most of your peers
But do they know that that training cost you something else?
Do you know that that training cost you something?
No? I'll tell you…
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…Because you grew up being blamed for 90% of the things that went wrong, now you have a programming that everything bad that happens is your fault.
You have an issue at your place of work, you blame yourself
You have a fallout with a friend, you blame yourself
Even when there's no one to be blamed, you find a way to blame yourself.
But you were never meant to carry all the responsibilities you did at such a young age.
You were supposed to be covered, held & safe
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…Because you had to be the “adult baby” — you learned a broken type of strength.
You were scared but you learnt to hide it.
You were confused but you learnt to not ask because then you'd be asked “how come you don't know” — even though you had never been taught.
Now you can't be vulnerable to save your life. You can't ask for help because you still subconsciously believe you should know what to do.
You have a programming that softness is weakness and you'd rather fix than be fixed. You'd rather help than be helped.
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…Because You were parentified at a young age, you had to take care of everyone else.
You had to cook the food, wash their clothes, do the chores, do your homework and still be morally upright.
Mummy would come back and while she'd hug the younger ones and ask them how they are, how was school,
you'd stand in a corner and watch while giving a breakdown of everything you had done as instructed.
This has given you the mentality that it is your responsibility to take care of everyone and it doesn't matter if you're taken care of.
Now you don't know how to receive the love you so freely give others.
It shows up in your relationships, you try to fix the man even after seeing multiple red flags…but it is really because you still think you're the “big sister”
It shows up in your inability to rest as a man who's already doing so much and working so hard.
You believe it's your “masculine calling” to make sure everyone else is having a blast…
But then how about you?
How about how you really feel?
Doesn't that count for something?
Doesn't it mean anything to you that you're lonely and need someone to talk to? Doesn't the hurt you feel matter to you?
Don't you deserve the parenting you give to others? The love, care and concern you show to everyone else?
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My job here is simple:
To stir the water that has been still for years, so that the wounds that need to be addressed can finally start to heal.
It doesn't matter how much you try to hide or bury it.
Unless you go through this healing, you'll only hurt as you have been hurt, because hurt people hurt people.
It is what you know that you give.
Cry if you have to, vent if you need to.
Just make sure that you do something productive with this information.
You're no longer the child who didn't have the opportunity to express themselves.
You don’t have to hold it in this time.
Use the link below to say what you couldn’t say then.
No one will see your name, but you will finally be heard
Click Me👋 to write anonymously…
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